Conflict Coaching
Conflict Coaching FAQs
For professionals navigating conflict, I offer a structured, strategic coaching process that combines the tactical precision of a litigator with deep expertise in conflict dynamics and resolution design. Whether you're preparing for a critical mediation, walking into a high-stakes negotiation, or working through a dispute that keeps you up at night, you get a strategist in your corner. My approach is rooted in the CINERGY™ conflict management coaching model, with somatic tools integrated where they serve your goals.
Conflict coaching is a confidential, one-on-one process where you work with a trained coach to build the competence and confidence to manage conflict on your own terms. It is goal-oriented and future-focused, designed around your specific situation, whether that's a single high-stakes conversation you need to get right or a pattern you want to change.
Our sessions are structured and involve strategic work aimed at helping you show up more effectively in the conflicts that matter most.
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What is conflict coaching?
Conflict coaching is for professionals who want to take ownership of how they engage in conflict, rather than avoid it, absorb it, or let it escalate. You don't need to be in crisis to benefit. You just need to want a better outcome than the one you're heading toward.
Conflict coaching can help when you are:
Navigating a dispute and unsure whether or how to act on it
In the middle of an active conflict that needs a clear strategy
Preparing for a conversation you know will be difficult: a partnership negotiation, a performance review, a board-level disagreement
Trying to prevent a tense situation from becoming a full-blown conflict
Needing to present a position or deliver a message to people who are likely to resist it
Processing the emotional weight of a conflict that is clouding your judgment
Looking for clarity on what options are actually on the table
Getting ready for mediation, arbitration, negotiation, or another formal process
Wanting to build stronger conflict skills so the next one doesn't hit as hard
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Is this for you?
What does a session look like?
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While every engagement is tailored to your needs, I provide a clear structure for our work.
Typically, we will:
Clarify your goals and what a successful outcome looks like for you
Explore the situation: what happened, what's at stake, and what matters most
Examine the emotional and relational dynamics at play
Identify patterns in how you engage with conflict and where those patterns help or hinder you
Develop concrete strategies, options, and next steps
Prepare you to take action with confidence and clarity
Where it serves your goals, I integrate somatic tools to help you notice how conflict shows up in your body, regulate your nervous system under pressure, and build lasting resilience. For more on the somatic dimension, visit Somatic Coaching FAQs.
When is conflict coaching more effective than mediation?
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Mediation brings all parties together with a neutral to facilitate resolution. Conflict coaching works with you individually. Sometimes coaching is the better path, or the necessary first step. Consider conflict coaching when:
You want to develop your own ability to manage the situation rather than relying on a third party
You prefer to handle the conflict directly and privately
Emotions are so elevated that a joint process would be unproductive
You're concerned that raising the issue in a formal setting could lead to retaliation or other consequences
The parties have fundamentally different expectations for what a joint process would achieve
You want to resolve the conflict on your own terms before deciding whether to escalate
Conflict coaching and mediation are not mutually exclusive. In many cases, coaching before or after mediation significantly improves outcomes.
Practical applications of conflict coaching
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Standalone Conflict Coaching
One-on-one coaching to work through a specific interpersonal dispute or to strengthen your overall capacity to manage conflict independently. Ideal for leaders and professionals who want to handle things themselves, strategically and on their own timeline.
Pre-Mediation & Pre-Negotiation Preparation
Coaching to prepare you before entering a mediation, negotiation, or other dispute resolution process. We work on clarifying your goals, developing your communication strategy, preparing for what the other party may say, and building the emotional regulation to stay grounded under pressure. I act as your coach, not your mediator. My focus is entirely on getting you ready.
Post-Mediation Support
Not every mediation resolves everything. Coaching after a formal process helps you strengthen the relationship with the other party, address what was left unresolved, work through any disappointment, and draw out lessons that build your conflict resilience going forward. Some clients come to this work knowing they didn't show up the way they wanted to, and wanting to do something about it.
CONFLICT COACHING & PREPARATION
Starting at $3,500
Engagement length varies based on your situation. A focused negotiation or mediation preparation may take 2–3 sessions. A full conflict coaching engagement typically runs 4–6 sessions. We'll scope the work together during an initial complimentary consultation.
I stand behind the services I provide. I offer a full refund after two sessions if you determine that it is not working for you.
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Investment
Coaching is not therapy. I do not diagnose or treat mental or physical health conditions, and somatic coaching is not a substitute for medical or psychological care. If your needs fall outside the scope of my practice, I will refer you to a licensed health practitioner. Your well-being is always the priority.